Thursday, February 7, 2013

Are You Trustworthy?

Proverbs 31 tells of the lifelong journey of the virtuous wife.  This passage is one that so many Christian women, including myself, look to for guidance on how to be the wife she is called to be.  Today, I want to look at just one aspect of being a godly wife.

"The heart of her husband safely trusts her;" Proverbs 31:11. 

So let me ask you, are you trustworthy?  Can your husband safely trust you?  
You may say, "Of course he can trust me!  I've never cheated on him!"

Being trustworthy in your marriage is a whole lot more than just remaining physically faithful to your husband.  

Be trustworthy in your finances:  Do you go shopping and hide the total from your husband?  Are you careful to find deals, or do you just buy whatever you want, regardless of the cost?  Do you respect his leadership enough to talk to him before you make a large purchase, or even a small one?  People have often scoffed at the fact that I ask "permission" from my husband to spend money, especially when I run a business and make my "own" money.  It's not at all that I have to get permission, but I desire that my husband can safely trust me and this requires me to not keep secrets from him in our finances.  He knows that when I do go shopping, I am extremely frugal whether they are needs or wants. And there is no "our own" money.  We are one, and every penny goes to the unit, not one individual.  

Be trustworthy with his emotions:  Can your husband share how he really feels about something without worrying about you criticizing him?  Even worse, is he afraid that you'll complain about him to you parents or your friends?  One of the greatest things you can do as a wife is to create a safe environment for your husband to vent out his deepest emotions.  When you allow him the freedom to speak his heart to you with complete assurance that you will think no less of him, that you won't nag him, and that it's not going to create a huge argument, then his heart can safely trust you.

Be trustworthy in your relationships:  Most women lump trust and jealousy together and view it only in light of physical infidelity.  "I don't know why he's so jealous, I've never cheated on him? He can trust me!"  Here's the thing, you don't have to physically cheat on your man to break his trust.  Do you flirt with other men?  Do you dress provocatively?  Do you allow other men to meet needs that you think you should be getting from your husband? Allow me to give an example.  If there is another man who sings your praises and tells you how great you are all the time, RUN!  Be careful in your relationships with other men.  Make sure that your relationships are above reproach.

So, how trustworthy are you?  Are you a woman whose husband can safely trust?  If not, stop what you are doing right now and talk to your husband.  Ask him for forgiveness, and go to God together to repent and seek His help to heal the broken trust.  


  1. Your posts are so uplifting. I have found such great comfort in them, especially with some things I've been struggling with lately. God has truly blessed you and I'm blessed to have the opportunity to know such a kind-hearted woman! God Bless!

  2. Thanks Kara! It's good to know when God is at work :) Let me know if there's anything I can be in prayer about for you.